Friday, July 17, 2009

What to do, what to do?

I visited a friend's house the other day after coming back from Bossier. He'd been asking me to hang out for a while and I just hadn't had the time so I finally went over and watched a movie with him. It had been a long, bad day - as most of my days are here lately - and I kept fading in and out of consciousness on his couch and he cuddled me for a bit.
It was the best feeling I've had in a very long time and now I don't know what to do.
The whole situation has awakened in me the realization and absolute understanding that I cannot be in a relationship right now - despite the fact that that is the very thing for which I deeply, deeply pine. Ever since leaving his house almost a week ago, I have been daydreaming about going back and just letting him hold me. It was such a wonderful comfort, fleeting though it was, and I desperately crave such refuge from the unending chaos of my days.
What with two part-time jobs, the internship and my classes, I rarely have time to eat or sleep and have gone days at a time without showering. I am tired and coming apart at the seems and I need some glue to hold me together.
My friend was that glue for a few moments. He held me together for just a little while and I crave more of that comfort, that solace. I crave it unhealthily and from sources that should not be.
We are just a couple of friends, at the moment, hanging out watching movies, but after last week, already I just want to take all my problems to him and have him hold me til they go away - simply because I know he would. Already, I am inclined to go to him with all my troubles and hope he can make me feel better rather than taking my problems to God and knowing that he would fix them.
I can only imagine how much worse this inclination of mine would be if I were actually in a committed relationship. Already, I rely too much on man to get me through my hardships. I put too much stock in his abilities and, in so doing, turn my back on God.
All this is bad enough even before considering my friend's position.
I know that I can't be in a relationship - will absolutely not enter into one until I learn to lean more on God. That being said and understood, I still possess an unceasing urge to visit him and have him comfort me too. But what message does that send to him?
"I am a tease."
"I want you to come hold me whenever I need you, but I don't want to date you."
"I don't want to commit to you, but I want you to commit to me."
"Let's just be friends with benefits."
No one deserves that, least of all, a friend who's only been there for me. Least of all, me.
So what am I to do?
I am trying to learn to find comfort and hope in God's word and in his promises, but does that mean I am to utterly forgo my desire for human companionship?

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